Social Implications of Draconity

Spirituality of Draconity

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This page is a beginners guide for otherkin, to be honest, I don't know what I was thinking when I made this, overall I just get a lot of newely awakened otherkin who tend to look up to me for advice, so I figured I would compile some subjects for starters, and what I know on to this page.

I am not an expert on any of this, it is just my opinion, my advice.

Overall I hope the combined data can help others in their awakening process and growth along their spiritual paths.

Should I tell my friends and family that I am a dragon or otherkin?

I would strongly advise against it, your spirituality and personal perceived beliefs are of your own business. Draconity and otherkinsim are extremely controversial and out of the mainstream and not too many people in the public or within our day to day lives are truly as open minded as they may seem, or we may think.

In sharing such controversial and radical beliefs with others you risk alienating yourself from friends or family as well as possibly damaging personal relationships and others perceptions of your mental or emotional stability, it does not mean that you are nuts, it just means that you are unique, different, an individual with your own ideas of your own spirit.

Humanity has a pack mentality, if you go outside the pack, you are a threat to its survival, be it social, emotional, spiritual, political, economical, or whatever, if you do not think the same as the pack, you are a threat. Look at political and religious disputes, they destroy alliances, that does not imply instability, but rather the obvious fact that differences create aversions, it is not your fault.

The prospect of struggling with the spiritual aspects of draconity or otherkin beliefs is difficult enough without the possibility of imminent alienation and suspicion from friends or family. Your spiritual paths and beliefs are something personal to you, they are your business and of your needs, no one else's.

Now in such a statement I do not mean that you should never tell anybody. If you truly trust your friends or a particular family member, test the waters and see how they react, “I found a site were some people believe such and such, what do you think about them?” or something like that. But in all honestly a lot of people will not, can not, or choose not to understand or seek to learn more of such ideas.

Likewise, with others feeling at social risk, or feeling fearful of your spiritual or emotional health, you will likely be victimized or experience negative results. Come on, think first, in todays society not that many people will be accepting of such ideas, it is common sense to put your own needs first, keep quiet about this stuff, at least until you can explain it rationally and feel secure in the possible results.

Just, from my own personal experience and that of many others, seriously, be careful of who you tell, and remember, on the Internet, anonymity is a great tool, don't ruin it. Overall, just be careful about who should know and who should not. We don't need an employer or overly religious parent finding out you think you identify with something other then human, tell only those you can trust, and use discretion, we just don't live in a perfect world, the idea is still too new and too obscure, its just not socially acceptable, use common sense.

How can I reconcile this new aspect of myself with who I am?

I am certain the way I wrote the question or topic above was in the form of a grammatical catastrophe, (much like many of my writings) nevertheless, what I meant to write was. “Well hell, here I thought I was normal, and now I come to find out I once existed as a (fill in the blank), what do I do from here?” Meh, thats probably not written much better.

Short answer, you do what you have always done, It seems that a lot of newly awaken kin suddenly undergo this immense personality shift to identify as much as possible with the form or entity in question all the while shirking that which they enjoyed no less then a month or week before. You don't need to go crazy trying to identify with said form or do anything crazy unless you want to, it doesn't help or hurt. It can of course make you feel better or more emotionally or spiritually connected, but too much focus and attention to a single aspect of who you are can do more harm then good in the long run.

So really, just stay who you are and do the things you have always loved, and integrate kin specific things of your choice, strive to relate with that which you perceived you once were, while not forgetting who and what you are now. Its just another aspect of who you are, an awesome and probably life changing aspect, but still, just one of many slices of the greater pie that is you.

You should strive to find a balance within yourself, not too far into the spirituality to damage your social life or responsibilities, but also, not so far into your present life and responsibilities that you fall into bland mendacity and neglect your spiritual or otherkin side. Balance is the key, too far to the left or right will bring only pain, remain centered.

A bit of advice for dealing with the struggle of who and what you were, versus who you are now and how you can live your life while not neglecting the truth of your past and spirit. Remember, that in nature you are always free, and through meditation and the silence and sanctity of your mind, you are free to imagine, experience and believe whatever you wish. Know that in the imagery and artistic expression of your kintype you can find relation and comfort, through video games, role-play, writing, and drawing you can express that which you feel about that which you once were.

As well, through the use of the Internet you have several websites and large communities of otherkin who can relate and listen to your thoughts, you are not alone. There are many ways to identify or cope with your otherkinsm if you only look for them, the support, writings, and options are all out there if you only look closely.

As for the differences between lifetimes, forms, personalities, possibly gender, and so forth, they can only be resolved by you, its your spirit, your past, your present, but help and advice is there. Just remember, whatever or whoever you perceive you were in a different reality, no matter what you feel you did, or failed to do, you are human now, and have this life to live and focus on. You can only dwell on a lost existence for so long.

Above all else, remember, regardless of what or who you perceive you once were, you are human now, and will remain such for the foreseeable future. There is a time and a place for all things, remember at all times to remain in balance. Also, obviously don't go crazy with the idea that you have awakened as otherkin and are somehow superior or different, as well, do not ignore that you are otherkin or unique, or focus so heavily on the tasks and distractions of this world to lose respect for, or hope of, the emotional and spiritual connections that awakening as an otherkin can bring.

Remember, in all things find balance.

I live in a religious family, or am a faithful person, how do I know I am not simply possessed?:

Firstly, if you live in a religious household and you are dabbling with otherkinism, for your own sake don't get caught, only in regards to the fact that your family or friends may flip out. Just a fun warning, as it seems to be a common problem for otherkin in religious households to have to suffer with hiding such.

Now as for whether or not you are possessed, or if you are under some form of spiritual attack or test, only you can determine such. I have known others, including myself, who have had spiritual companions (Guides) throughout their awakenings, who were deeply supportive and encouraging of faith.

I would imagine a demonic entity would be quite the opposite and would strive to push away from a belief in the devine, but that is only my personal experiences. In all honesty only you and your God can know what is within your heart, mind and soul. It is a deeply philosophical question beyond my ability to respond to, it can only be determined by you as an individual.

A prayer tip for reconciling your present existence with the possibility of otherkinism for those who may actively participate in a strict religion or within a belief system that inherently disagrees with the idea of otherkinism.

If you believe in your heart and mind, in your very soul that you are otherkin but fear condemnation, pray to your God or deity and let them know that you still follow them now, as you always have, and that you are but a child, that you must follow your spirit alongside its creator, that you know your God can see into your mind and spirit and know that you mean no disrespect in such actions.

That you pray, that if you are in error, that you will be forgiven, and that you trust in a loving deity who can see into your heart, mind, and spirit and know what you are going through and will support you in love and forgiveness.

If need be, for further spiritual closure, ask your God in prayer, for some form of confirmation that what you believe of yourself is true or of his/her will, you may be surprised.

I want to relate to otherkin more, or have more dragon stuff, writings art, etcetera, but my family and friends would never accept such, what do I do?:

First, before I begin, a disclaimer, you know best how to go about this, yours and others sitiuations may vary, do what you know is safe or best for you, as always my advice below is just what worked for me and my friends.

As I touched upon in earlier tips, most people frown upon you getting too involved in what may be deemed fantasy, childish, sinful or bizarre. But you are probably still going to want to have physical reminders around to help bring you closer to, or help you relate more with what you perceive you were or are on the inside. For this topic, I use dragons, but insert your own kintype as need be.

Here is my advice to you, if you cannot have a room with a dragon shrine and be constantly surrounded by dragon paraphernalia, due to parents or social expectations, you still have some options. Number one, digital means, create a secret folder on your computer, phone, media player or whatever is available, get down to or Google and find and save all the dragon art that has meaning to you, keep it secret and view it in private when you need a little emotional boost or reminder of who or what you are on the inside.

If you are blocked from such sites, do such after school, or visit a public library if nothing else, do an art search at a friends and keep what meaningful pictures you find on a flash drive. And of course, leave no evidence.

But beyond that, find someplace in nature that you can call your own, a lair so to speak, a private little natural spot where you can be alone and be yourself, there, you can read whatever books you want, draw whatever you wish, play whatever games you like and generally be yourself free of the criticism of others. No annoyances laughing or complaining about your love of dragons, just you and the nature around you, enjoy.

If that is not possible, for example you live in a city or urban area, you always have the privacy of your room, at least I would hope. Save up a few dollars and invest in purchasing a storage chest with a lock, then buy whatever dragon trinkets, literature, art, goodies you wish, and keep them under lock and key when not in use, nobody need know unless you wish it, just don't get caught.

Come on, you are probably young if your reading this, ^,=,^ you are smarter then me, the world is yours have fun, be dragon, own dragons, just be sneaky, its never as hard as it seems, think outside the box.

Find your own path, your own truth, and make your own way:

Remember, you are a spiritual being within a physical machine, this world we live in is an adventure, a learning experience, and each new life, each new form is only experienced once, you only get one whack at this life, this world, you could die today, you just don't know. So why waste your life in mendacity? You have your daily dramas and stresses, your problems and negatives, we all do.

The goal is to remember, each new day could be your last. Life on this world is just too short to waste on such petty things, you are here to live, yesterday sucked, why let it ruin today, today may suck, don't let it ruin tomorrow. Happiness is a choice, even in the worst of conditions, life can always improve, let drama and negatives just slide down your back, you must create your reality, your truth, your path. Do not be confined to one road in life, detour and explore the roads less traveled, you'll never know what you will find.

If you are an otherkin, you are an alien to this world, never forget that, see and experience this reality through external eyes outside the perspective of humanity, learn and grow with this perspective, find what works for you in this world, make your own way, the truths and beliefs of man may not be your own.

You are a visitor to this world truth is subjective, know yourself and never forget who or what you are on the inside. Be strong and take pride in what you are, you only live once, make this life count and do not waste time dwelling on the past, be it that of this life, or another, live for today and create your new reality.

Responsibility of being dragonkin or otherkin.

As an otherkin, you have some responsibility, mostly to yourself, you need to remember to conduct yourself in a mature fashion or you are just going to alienate yourself from family and friends, that is obvious, and has already been discussed.

But as well, if you choose to openly portray yourself as otherkin, you now are not only representing yourself, but also the concept of our collective belief system, we are not an organized religion, but are rather just a collective of individualists each with unique perceptions of our personal spiritualities, we have no spokesman or public propagandists, if one of us looks bad publicly it reflect upon the whole and there is little that can be done to prevent negative social assumptions.

Our power is in the fact that we are obscure, separate and individual, so remember when you are on your rooftop with that sword declaring yourself Arutama prince of dragons, when the media comes to find out why, shut up about us and just let them assume it is the fault of a D&D game gone awry. Try not to bring unwanted attention to us by being stupid with unsubstantiated claims, behave yourselves, you represent a collective which may wish not to be well known.

As well, take note, that when and if you first awaken, you will likely awaken to many false assumptions and memories in your first year or so, not everything your heart tells you may be true, it must be reaffirmed with knowledge and wisdom, inner truth from the soul, deep meditation and of course faith, you don't get the answers all at once, only assumptions, you have a responsibility to question yourself and evolve in your beliefs, what you believe today may not be what you believe a year from now, things change as you discover more truths from within.

Do not follow others you may meet blindly, their paths are not your own, however, do not shirk their advice either, in all things find balance, learn from your elders and those who came and experienced before, but in the end, your path is your own, compile advice and question the reasoning and rational behind what you were told, what lessons exist, what mistakes where made, what mistakes can you learn from, and how can you grow?

Don't blow off those you disagree with, question, discuss, and learn, we all have different perspectives and experiences, what is right for one, may not be right for others. Take advice, and always be in a state of receptive learning and growth. Lastly, if somebody accuses you of fluff, or ignorance, do not take it as an insult, they had probably experienced the same beliefs or ideas you have now, tried, failed, and matured.

We all start off as fluff, question why another may believe such and listen to their stories, not all things are an immediate attack, we speak from experience to teach those who need it. If we came off as rude, its not your fault, we may just be jaded from telling the same stories and lessons. Always question, always remain in a state of personal growth, your maturity or lack thereof, reflects upon us all. Be your best for all of us, as well as for yourself.

Otherkinism is not a game:

My Draconity has been a psychologically detrimental, spiritually hectic and overall long and stressful journey, but it is a part of who I am, and as a result I know myself better and have become a stronger person. I have also learned that draconity is not for everyone, it is not simply a game, or a mask that you wear, it is a state of inner being, you cannot simply choose to be an otherkin, you either are or you are not, and the experiences that one will face through draconity are a mixed blessing at best with positives and negatives, but in the end ones reward is the knowing of ones true inner spirit.

I can only be myself, and I am a dragon in mind and spirit. It was only in the realization and acceptance of the fact that I was a dragon in spirit and in mind that I was able to achieve the peace and balance that I was missing from my life. It was as if a missing piece to the puzzle of who I was had been found and things finally begun to make sense.

So, yeah it is a personal spiritual belief system with meaning to the individual, it isn't just some role play escapism or psychological malfunction, although I am sure there is the rare and highly publicized case in which it is, the majority of otherkin are introverted but overall fun individuals, heavily involved in philosophical debates, metaphysical studies, creative activities and live typical social and economical lives off the Internet.

We're just normal people with odd or different beliefs. We don't do it for attention, or to escape reality, it's not some game like second life, to us, it is personal, it is who we are.

 I am always happy to meet new people so if you have something to ask, or just want to chat don't be afraid to contact me.

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